LIFE IN MARRIAGE

      Man and woman are made different.  Perhaps that is why they are attracted to each other to begin with. When they start their friendship they are in full swing and feel being in heaven. Emotional intensity that characterizes the first day of marriage slowly declines. Then the two begin to notice each other's drawbacks. When they do not meet each other’s high expectations, anger and resentment surface. In some cases this leads to the end of all affection for each other and their lives come apart, even if they continue to cohabit.

     If tea is allowed to come to a quick boil, drinking it does not give you much pleasure. If it is allowed to cook patiently and then consumed, it tastes great.

     First of all let us understand that following marriage, complete submergence of wife's life into husband's or vice versa is never possible. Not only the two are of different biological makeup but they come into marriage with different upbringing and life experiences. One may have a keen interest in beautifying their house and the other may be more into financial matters. The husband may be interested in sports while the wife may enjoy social interactions. One may have a sweet tooth and the other may prefer spicy dishes. Men are generally stimulated visually by female beauty while women love romantic whispering in their ear and tender touch.

     Marriage does not mean complete mixing of two colors but a partial overlapping of two adjoining colors, such as, the pretty orange in the rainbow between red and yellow. The red and yellow continue to maintain their unique personality. Now if husband and wife share some common interests, their life becomes enriched with friendship.

     Like the pots and pans of the house sometimes banging with each other, it is normal to have occasional clashes between the two partners in life. Marital bliss can be defined as including the following characteristics: readiness to say "sorry", acceptance of each other's limitations, mutual appreciation of good qualities, freely but calmly expressing disagreements with each other, taking care of each other in sickness and hard times, being affectionate to each other.

     Marriage is not a venture entered into by two persons, only to fulfill their selfish interests. It is two persons joining hands and going on a journey, full of high hopes of having a good time together.   

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