WHAT WILL OTHERS THINK ABOUT ME ?


               Many of us harbor an irrational belief, " I must be a likeable person to others". We 

then try to please everybody. We refrain from voicing our displeasure even when treated 

inappropriately by someone. We do not speak up against injustice lest we fall out of favor of 

some. We stay away from expressing our  hurt feelings out of fear that he or she will stop 

liking me. In reality, so what if some people do not like you? The sky is not going to come 

down. Be assured, other people's ill opinion about you is not going to damage your skin. We 

have to stop measuring our self worth in terms of whar others think about us. If we keep 

trying to please others. we wind up making ourslves miserable. When we speak up to 

others, they are probably going to respect us. We have to stop sweating about small stuff.

Let us live our life with gusto and with quiet self confidence.



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