A N G E R


               To be angry at times, is human. One need not carry a sense of guilt for it.There is a

difference between anger and aggression. Anger is an emotion felt in the form of several 

bodily sensations, such as, rapid heartbeats, faster breathing, knot in the stomach, an urge to 

fight. Aggression is outward expression of anger by negative verbal and/or physical activity, 

such as, yelling, cursing, throwing objects, hitting. Anger does not have to lead to 

aggression. There is a popular misconception that when one feels angry, it is a good idea to 

freely vent one's anger by screaming, cursing or throwing objects, behind the back of the 

offending party. Such behavior may give a brief sense of relief but does not eliminate anger. 

On the other hand it reinforces a bad habit. Of course if there is a threat to safety of you or 

yours, expression of anger, right away, is an appropriate thing to do. But anger needs to be 

tamed in most circumstances.  


               Our anger is aroused, often when things do no go according to our wishes, e.g. we 

back our car out of garage to go to work and it starts pouring heavily, or our child refuses to 

heed to our command. It is generally not a good idea to act on impulse when we get angry. 

Hold yourself back for a while, maybe by counting 1 to 10, and then try to express your 

feelings and thoughts clearly but calmly, e.g.,"The way you are talking to me is not right, it 

makes me uncomfortable.", "No, I am sorry, I do not wish to follow your advice."


                There are some predisposing circumstances which increase the probability of 

anger arousal, such as, drinking alcohol, lack of sleep, stress on the job - family life.


               Cultivating certain healthy attitudes in life is helpful in reducing the tendency of 

getting easily angered: (1) Do not take yourself or life too seriously. (2) Do not think that 

most other people are motivated by bad intentions. (3) Do not try to please everybody. (4) 

When you assert yourself by expressing your feelings or opinions without raising your 

voice, you are more likely to earn respect from others. (5) Some things in life are not worth 

being bothered about. Learn to 'let go' and if possible, 'forgive'.



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